The serial of articles written in English is not over yet! If you are interested in reading in foreign language, go ahead! Today I am asking about the opinion of the others.
Once upon a time there was a beautiful princess who wanted to marry a brave and handsome prince. But she felt in love with an ugly and fat ogre and she was afraid what her parents and other princesses would tell her (yes, this is the case of Fiona and Shrek :-).
In another story there was a normal girl who adores one pair of jeans – quite old-fashioned one, but her favourites (they had shaped her butt in the way of J.Lo style). She didn´t wear them anyway, because the other girls would laugh at her… Is it familiar with you? Are you also scared to be extraordinary and different than the others?
Young girls are expected to fulfil many prejudices (I am just not sure who is making this prejudices – the adults or the youths?), such as to be polite, use make-up or at least look nice, be “in” and so and so on. Once I have tried to put on make-up (ok, mascara and lipstick is my best for everyday wearing), take care about my body (you know, all the products promising your cellulite will be gone and your skin will be like a velvet), dress more like a girl (well, the only difference was I didn´t wear trainers and jeans every day, just every second), I have studied to school every day and seem intelligently there and mainly, not speak tough and not make self-ironic statements. All these things, at least I think so, are supposed to be done by the perfect girl who everybody likes and who is perfectly normal and most of the girls want to be like her.
My experiment lasted for two weeks – I was not able to pretend I am somebody else. It has taught me I have to be happy for my own personality and not try to change it at all. I have decided not to be so stressed by the others and what they are thinking about me – I have begun to live my life according to my own policy. I am saying what I want and the only one I am asking about propriety is me. I don´t care about my classmates or colleagues opinion about my clothes or my dress or what I am saying – expect members of my family and my real friends. And you know what? I think some people actually like me more, because I am not stressed out if I look perfect or if I am in the eyes of the others “perfect”. It is just me and like this I feel much better than ever.
Does it seem difficult and impossible to you? I have a suggestion – take it as the New Year´s resolution. At least you should try to be more relaxed and less stressed about yourself. I honestly hope you will feel as good as I do and you will enjoy your new YOU.
Text: Kača M.